I watched The Secret DVD. I've listened to the audio version of it. I did this over and over for years. I am big believer in quantum theory and the principles of mind over matter; BUT for me, The Secret never took effect. As a matter of fact, it created an opposite effect and sent me spiraling down hill in both my personal and profession life.
The more I listened to The Secret the worse my situation became. After 2 - 3 years of trying to make it work i finally gave up on it and had eventually forgotten about it. Looking back, the reasons why The Secret didn't work for me are finally clear.
First, the number one reason why The Secret didn't work for me is because I put myself in the mindset that I was already successful. I totally believed it. I acted like it. I spent money like it. I even talked like it. I recently realized this was the key to my downfall. I relaxed because part of my vision of success was to sip on Pina Colada's and let other people do the work for me. Big oops!
Next, I, 100% without a doubt, followed the positive thought process, but looking back, the though process is only that, a thought. No where did The Secret invoke action. I kept hearing, "if it was meant to be, it will happen". I misinterpreted what The Secret was saying as "wait around" and it will come.
Next, when you listen to The Secret, don't you think that some of the subjects were a little crazy? To me there was at least two subjects (the people the secret was based on) that were just complete nut jobs. Subconsciously, I found it hard to take them seriously and caused doubt to their validity in my subconscious. I spent years thinking that i looked past it, but in reflection, they stood out as barriers to my success. I'd rather be broke and homeless and real, rather than rich and kooky. One of speakers had been involved in an incident where his business practices were blamed for the cause of death of two of his clients. Thankfully he wasn't at fault but his practices are definitely questionable.
Moving along, I believe in the energy of positive thoughts and frequency, but i also came to the conclusion that the human body doesn't have enough electricity to produce enough power of frequency needed to travel across the universe. In The Secret, the frequency is often compared to radio and television waves. Even radio waves fade at some point, why do they think that human frequency would be any more powerful? I believe that the frequency of our thoughts only travels a few feet from our body. (This is an interesting topic to look up. In college I studied human proximity. Maybe it has something to do with our frequency?)
Lastly, i became so focused on how much i wanted The Secret to work, it became a distraction and took away from what I really needed to do. I would listen to The Secret by taking extra long walks/runs in the late morning, lunch or early afternoons - at critical times when i needed to be on the phone, or giving my employees direction. This was a mistake - a huge mistake. I did this for years! I need to be in the office, carrying out and executing our clear goals. In The Secret years, I had clear goals and a clear vision, but no clear timeline and no execution.
So, how did i make the principles of The Secret work? First, I reflected on what was working and what wasn't. Once I took a hard look, most of what I was doing had not been working. Most of my habits had never worked! The only thing that really worked was when I carried out a vision, rather than worked to create one . Hopefully you know what I mean by the previous sentence. If you have a vision for something you will know what I am talking about.
Anyway, Instead of relying on hocus pocus for success, I studied the truly successful and what they physically did to make them successful. The common trait was how consistent they were at executive each task necessary to get through each step of success. The common traits are hard work, focus and frugality. Yes - I said frugality. The most common trait of every successful person I know is that they are perceived to be cheap bastards. People hate them. On the flip side, my mentors were fun, spendy and well liked.
Interestingly enough, with the crash of 2008, my mentors are either in jail, or out of business. I am talking to some big time shysters that either were busted for forging 8 figure loan documents to being arrested for running some of the largest ponzi schemes in the country. No kidding! I realized I had the wrong role models in business. I look back to the major growth period of my business and we we had it all. Luxury cars, Parties wherever we went, $2,500+ bar tabs, first class upgrades and attention - lots of attention. Thankfully i never went their route. I never opened million dollar credit lines and trusted an accrual based accounting system.
Things have changed. We fly using discount airlines, if at all, we pack lunches and don't open bar tabs. Life is balanced. It will be hard not fall back into that lifestyle but with the way things are we will never touch it - it just doesn't exist anymore.
Anyway, the moment i decided to "do" things rather than wait for "the universe to happen" things became positive for me. I love The Secret and what it represents, but I wish I would have remained objective from the beginning.
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